The Feminist Matchmaker Fighting Against Dating Apps

I have a confession, everyone! Before I begin, if any of the guys have Googled me and found this, for the sake of our potential future: stop reading now. Kidding not really, though. So, I joined a popular, free website a couple months ago because I was sick of meeting no one interesting and liked the idea of window shopping for men in the comfort of my home. As nice as being told you are stunning from a stranger is, most of the messages have been invasive

If ghosting, breadcrumbing, and catfishing weren’t enough for you, now there’s ‘​wokefishing’: when men pretend to be feminists on dating apps.

Heterosexual women of a progressive bent often say they want equal partnerships with men. But dating is a different story entirely. The women I interviewed for a research project and book expected men to ask for, plan, and pay for dates; initiate sex; confirm the exclusivity of a relationship; and propose marriage. After setting all of those precedents, these women then wanted a marriage in which they shared the financial responsibilities, housework, and child care relatively equally.

Almost none of my interviewees saw these dating practices as a threat to their feminist credentials or to their desire for egalitarian marriages. But they were wrong. I was aware of the research that showed greater gains in gender equality at work than at home.